Manly Men Sing

In a home where the boys are outnumbered more than two to one my son and I are always conscious of doing "guy stuff."  Ninjas, guns, camouflage, football.  That stuff. We have to intentionally fight the tidal wave of dolls and dress-up, lest we be swept away in all things pink.   But while I want to raise my son to be a man, I do not want him to succumb to a caveman-like understanding of masculinity.  Too often books, music, poetry, and art are viewed as antithetical to manhood.  Thankfully, I didn't grow up in a home or community where that was the case.  In my high school, the top musicians were also the top athletes.  Nevertheless, too often the never-said but oft implied sentiment I get from Christian men is "Real men don't sing.  That's for girls."  

A real man would never say that.  One of the "manliest" men in the Bible also wrote the most songs.  David, who killed lions, bears, a giant, and armies, also wrote many of the songs of the Bible.  He was warrior, a general, a king, and a poet.  He exposed his own soul in poetry.  Any view of masculinity that has no room for music is not biblical masculinity.

Therefore one of the phrases we say in our house a lot is, "Manly men sing."  Sing loud and clear! 

In his book on raising sons, Doug Wilson wrote:

The fact that the church has largely abandoned the singing of psalms means that the church has abandoned a songbook that is thoroughly masculine in its lyrics. The writer of most of the psalms was a warrior, and he knew how to fight the Lord’s enemies in song. With regard to the music of our psalms and hymns, we must return to a world of vigorous singing, vibrant anthems, more songs where the tenor carries the melody, open fifths, and glory. Our problem is not that such songs do not exist; our problem is that we have forgotten them. And in forgetting them, we are forgetting our boys. Men need to model such singing for their sons (Future Men, kindle 1089-1094).