In a home where the boys are outnumbered more than two to one my son and I are always conscious of doing "guy stuff." Ninjas, guns, camouflage, football. That stuff. We have to intentionally fight the tidal wave of dolls and dress-up, lest we be swept away in all things pink. But while I want to raise my son to be a man, I do not want him to succumb to a caveman-like understanding of masculinity. Too often books, music, poetry, and art are viewed as antithetical to manhood. Thankfully, I didn't grow up in a home or community where that was the case. In my high school, the top musicians were also the top athletes. Nevertheless, too often the never-said but oft implied sentiment I get from Christian men is "Real men don't sing. That's for girls."
A real man would never say that. One of the "manliest" men in the Bible also wrote the most songs. David, who killed lions, bears, a giant, and armies, also wrote many of the songs of the Bible. He was warrior, a general, a king, and a poet. He exposed his own soul in poetry. Any view of masculinity that has no room for music is not biblical masculinity.
Therefore one of the phrases we say in our house a lot is, "Manly men sing." Sing loud and clear!
In his book on raising sons, Doug Wilson wrote:
The fact that the church has largely abandoned the singing of psalms means that the church has abandoned a songbook that is thoroughly masculine in its lyrics. The writer of most of the psalms was a warrior, and he knew how to fight the Lord’s enemies in song. With regard to the music of our psalms and hymns, we must return to a world of vigorous singing, vibrant anthems, more songs where the tenor carries the melody, open fifths, and glory. Our problem is not that such songs do not exist; our problem is that we have forgotten them. And in forgetting them, we are forgetting our boys. Men need to model such singing for their sons (Future Men, kindle 1089-1094).